“Thus says the Lord: Do not let the wise boast in their wisdom, do not let the mighty boast in their might do not let the wealthy boast in their wealth but let those who boast in this, that they understand and know me, that I am the Lord I act with steadfast love, justice, and righteousness in the earth, for in these things I delight, says the Lord. (Jeremiah 9: 23-24 NLT)
Marriage was created in the beginning with Adam, God knew that Adam was not whole and that he needed companionship. Hence the creation of Eve. Genesis 2:24 states, “A man shall leave his father and mother and shall cleave unto his wife.” This act alone comes as a very strange request for us all as this means that whatever our husband/wife says and does will affect us and vice versa. Are you cleaving to your husband/wife? We notice in our scripture verse above, that Jeremiah shows the attitude and selfishness that we all can face in our daily walk in life and marriage. There is a certain prestige and peace that holds true to God’s word, and this word speaks truth in life and in marriage as written in the Old & New Testaments. The bible is your compass to a healthy and fruitful marriage. Marriage is a Fight. Marriage is a Struggle. Marriage is of God. That is why we as husbands and wives are called to CLEAVE. To those who are reading this and not married yet, and for those who are going through a “rough-patch” and looking for some “feel good” words to endure, hold on a bit, we’re leading you to a place where you can rest.
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her” (Ephesians 5:25 NKJV) God knew that everything you and I needed to FIGHT for our MARRIAGES would be hidden in the details of his holy words. Just as our scripture today in Jeremiah states, “Thus says the Lord: DO not let the wise boast in their wisdom, do not let the mighty boast in their might do not let the wealthy boast in their wealth but let those who boast in this, that they understand and know me, that I am the Lord I act with steadfast love, justice, and righteousness in the earth, for in these things I delight, says the Lord. (Jeremiah 9:23-24). We have to consider the source and where our desire to fight and struggle is born, it all begins in our hearts. Marriage coincides with the heart. The heart of marriage identity begins with God. God’s love for husbands and wives was first created in His heart. Boasting, Wealth, Lack of Wisdom, Selfishness, these are all triggers that prevent us from being shaped and formed in the image of what Christ created our love as husband and wife to be. In this day and age of “quick marriages” and even “quicker divorces”, we can stand to “pump the breaks” a bit and dive deeper into God’s Holy word that gives each of us a “breath of fresh air” to recognize that our ability to speak boldly in delight of the Lord is the beginning of disarming the struggles that each of us face in our marriages. God wants us in marriage as husband and wife, to recognize that Marriage was created from a “good place”. In the midst of a world turned completely upside down and “marriage” being diluted with world views and opposing standards to scripture, we all must stand boldly in our actions towards our marriage realizing that everything that we need and require comes from an instructional platform that begins and ends with God’s truth and His holy and righteous word.
Our ability to Cleave to each other as husband &wife is not just something we do for accolades or benefits, or intimacy, we must realize that walking with God illuminates areas within our walk that reveal passion and purpose in our marriage, our family, and our hearts that cause a greater power and movement in Christ to be elevated from a place of obedience. Obedient marriage results in obedient faith and obedient purpose. As a faithful husband and wife we struggle constantly with who is right, and feelings of being taken for granted, or some of us, including in our very own marriage, need more affection than the other, and so on and so forth. But we realized that as we prepare to celebrate our 15th wedding Anniversary, what is being illuminated in our actions is that God wants All of it. All of our lives, All of our hearts, All of our family and All of our obedience. He wants all of it. “What God has joined together, let no man/woman out asunder”, these words were powerful when we spoke them to each other 14 ½ years ago and they resonate more each and every anniversary we celebrate and milestone we commemorate as a model to how God loves the union between man and woman.
“To achieve marital longevity, you BOTH must agree that Divorce will never be an option” ~M.A.
In dealing with marriage and marital longevity we both decided that the life we lead is lead is ordained and orchestrated by God. Don’t get us wrong, yes one of us is a more connected with God than the other, but believe us when we say, God can change the hearts of an unbelieving husband/wife, if you dedicate him/her to the altar consistently in humble authentic prayer. This is truly a depiction of our own story. (We’ll save that for another post J smile!)
Now, we would argue that many times God grants us clarity and discernment as to who we are to marry as well as the power that will be gained if we chose to walk together in Holy Matrimony as God’s chosen union, but this type of surrender requires us to first engage in authentic honesty with God about our marriages and surrender our own expectations to him. It is only then will he begin to “prick” and “pursue” our hearts to seek His revelation as to our position as a faithful husband and wife. It is in our time spent with God that not only will He reveal the template for marriage between man and woman, but it is in His infinite wisdom that He can help you navigate the process and plans of your own married love.
“Abandoning your ways, and embracing God’s way, is why iCleave” ~M.A.
Fight for your Marriage with God’s help and let Him tell you and show you in His word exactly how He wants you and your husband/wife to be used for His work in the kingdom. Don’t give up at the onsite of conflict or disagreement or low-expectations. Choose today to push through those areas in your marriage that you need to lay at the foot of His cross and allow Him to carry those things for you both. Choosing to bring the originator and creator of marriage into your own life, will benefit you both in the long run. Don’t wait another minute, allow God to reveal to you His perfect plans for your married love, no matter what it looks like today, He can transform even the most hopeless situations, if you decide to let Him help you Fight for your Marriage!
Oh Father, my marriage is one of the most heartfelt spaces of prayer in my life and I want to thank you for allowing me to pray this special pray of surrender to you. My husband/wife loves me, but I trust that it is your love that will show me how to return the love uniquely back to him/her. I realize in this moment that you are changing my heart to recognize that marriage is an example of the ultimate love Christ has for the church. Teach me how to love my husband/wife in this same way, and help me to abandon my own expectations and carry-out the call of marital bliss that you have designed for my life. I love my husband/wife, and it is through this prayer that I too will begin to cleave. I ask this prayer in Jesus name, Amen.
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