Your identity in Marriage begins with Christ……..

Marriage is a matter of meeting each other’s needs, and very often understanding what those needs are begin and end with Christ. ~M.D.A

Genesis 2:24 states that “A man shall leave his father and his mother and cleave unto his wife. (KJV). Every need that you desire as a husband or wife will inevitably be filled in part by the other. To cleave means to lean on, depend on and ultimately shape all forms of ideas and decisions on each other. Married cleaving requires a work that can only be successful when both the husband and the wife know who they are in Christ…… then can only the true needs of marriage be attained.

You make me better……

I value your opinion….

Before I make any decisions I need your input………

These are statements that when we choose to cleave to one another we revert back to the template of what God spoke in the original design and plan for marriage. There are many passages in the bible that show not only clarity of heart for the love designed for marriage, but God gives strict instructions of how a husband and wife must form and fill the needs of the other. This can only happen, when we choose to cleave. We must 1st leave our father and mother and then cleave to each other. There is nothing wrong with seeking opinions and input from other sources, but we must be careful that these sources are not speaking the loudest over what our husband/wife may need from us in our marriages.


“Her children rise up and bless her

Her husband also, and he praises her,

saying: “Many daughters have done nobly,

But you excel them all.” ~ Proverbs 31:28, 29

Wife, you excel them all. Many are called to this position and your husband agrees that you dear one excel them all. Walking in wifely duties requires not only intentional prayer and patience with God’s instructions for your marriage. But you are the example of what love and patience looks like and resembles in your home. Don’t take this responsibility for granted, know that the needs that God has placed in your for your husband are all in his word. We have to make conscious efforts to spend alone time in God’s word to ensure that those things that we are doing and walking in are all a part of the His plan for our lives and our marriage.


“Her husband is known in the gates,

When he sits among the elders of the land. ~Proverbs 31:23

Husband, you are known, you are known in areas that have yet to experience your arrival. Man of the family. Intuitive one, the leader of the wife and the children, knowing these needs within yourself requires that you not only make changes that benefit your home, but the decisions that you make and the areas in which you carry yourself must all be a reflection of the great leader in Christ Jesus. Being a man in marriage will require you to understand what matters most in marriage is the love that you have for Christ first, and then can you be a husband to your wife, and a leader for your home, and a Father to your children.

His needs and Her needs are all intertwined with the love and the identity that Christ has for the church. If you are married, engaged or seeking to renew the love and passion that you have for each other in marriage begin again with God. We did. We have. We are praying that you will too. The love that is depicted in Ephesians can open up a love so strong, that neither you nor your husband/wife will never be the same. Use this moment to learn more about how a husband and wife are depicted in the bible so that you can be more of an example of success for your marriage.

Marriage Like Christ and the Church

22 Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. 24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, 26 so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church [q]in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. 28 So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; 29 for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, 30 because we are members of His body. 31 For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. 32 This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she [r]respects her husband.

Don’t allow this world to dictate how your marriage should appear. Dive deeper with God for His vision of what He meant when He spoke His truths in Genesis 2:24. You will be surprised as to what He wants to reveal in your life when you surrender your love in marriage back to him. “Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” Philippians 1:6 (NIV). He will complete the work in you and you must recognize that any work that needs to be done begins with you recognizing your identity in Christ, and knowing that no matter what you endure through your married love, that God supports the love that you share with your husband/wife, and He will be with you both every step of the way.

iCleave Marriage Prayer:

Oh God, I come before you with a surrendered heart, seeking to your instructions as to how I must live and breathe in who I am to be in for my marriage. From the moment I spoke, “I do”, the love that I share with my husband/wife has been built upon the template as written in Ephesians 5. Teach me how to abandon what I think marriage should be, and help me to take ownership of the new identity that comes with me being a godly wife/husband to my husband/wife. May I incline my ear to hear only the instructions that you have orchestrated uniquely for my husband/wife & I. May I abandon the thoughts that seek to destroy and cause defeat for the love that I have for my marriage. May my every intentionality for the love that he/she & I share drip with the promises as written in your holy word. Reveal yourself in our married love so that we can share an intimate covenant that begins and end in Christ. I ask this prayer as I cleave in marriage to my husband/wife, in Jesus name, Amen

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