The past 24-hours have been a bit unique in our household where both of us have for the most part retreated to our own corners, listening to God for our next move…….Many in the world would call this an argument, but we like to think of it as a test….Let us explain…….
In marriage, many times we see an appearance of lessons and teachings that surround us as moments of conflict , with each of these being used to test our honesty, our ability to be faithful and to remind both of us who is truly in control of our marriage destiny. Yes, maybe an occasional disagreement will give all of us a different perspective on how we need to carry-on, or these arguments tend to remind us that humility is key to anything in marriage, most Importantly the ability to communicate, and submit to the other person’s needs and values is paramount to growth in marriage. Bottom-line, submission and respect are all at the core of marital bliss, arguments ensue when one or the other person desires to seek their own way….and immediately following this type of behavior comes …….Silence! You see this was not just a lesson for one of us, this was a lesson for the both of us in which communication and the ability to surrender to our own individual will were paramount to the lesson that was being taught…..Bottom line, as husband and wife, we had an argument and although no blood was shed, or words exchanged that would require repentance, what did happen, figuratively speaking, was a heart-transplant. Yep, anyone who has EVER endured surgery knows, surgery is painful. Imagine, both you and your husband/wife having to endure a heart-check at the same time…….it wasn’t pretty. Hearing the truth and trusting God’s will in Marriage can sometimes be a bloody heart-transplant that one or the both of you may have to surrender your own will towards that of God’s leadings…… We must admit, silence in our home, is very irritating but sometimes well-needed. Yes we both understand the old “adage” that says, “don’t let the sun set on your wrath”, but look friends, sometimes, we must admit that as husband and wife, silence sometimes is the waiting period needed to heal the wounds from surgery. Many of you reading this are already aware that marriage is not just a pretty dress and a handsome tuxedo, marriage is a “carving” of past ways and “unique” lifestyles to coincide TOGETHER on one accord, with the instructions that God has uniquely settled, and ordained for your walk of Marriage. This covenant can only be attained together as husband and wife under His holy covenant…….. *wipes brow*, Yes this sounds impossible to us too. Take a look at what the word says about possibilities, “But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, with men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible.” with GOD, all things are possible Matthew 19:26
So here we stand 24-hours later, preparing to pray with each of you in our daily marriage prayers. We gotta’ admit, we texted one another this morning, with our usual “I Love You’s” and last night’s dinner was our lunch for this afternoon, and we both can’t wait to kiss one another when we meet together at home this evening, but we value prayer in our marriage and can’t begin to tell you how important it was for us to be transparent with all of you before we went to God together not only as husband and wife, but as accountability partners to each of you! We’re both hopeful, that the silence of the last 24-hours came with not only lessons for both of our hearts to make some real communication and submissive changes, but that it also carved a unique moment in time that only the both of us can learn from……
You see friends, arguments and disagreements are not always negative, nor is it a time to prove that your way is the right way. Sometimes, well, many times, these moments should be received as teaching moments to allow God’s best to be transformed in your marriages. In our opinion, if you both walk in God’s awareness, this is the perfect time to hear what God is transforming your heart into…….after all, marriage is for His glory anyhow, so let’s die to our own ways and arise again in Him! Happy Cleaving Friends……Let us Pray………
Marriage, the Righteousness of God
7Dear children, do not let anyone lead you astray. The one who does what is right is righteous, just as he is righteous. 8The one who does what is sinful is of the devil, because the devil has been sinning from the beginning. The reason the Son of God appeared was to destroy the devil’s work. 9No one who is born of God will continue to sin, because God’s seed remains in them; they cannot go on sinning, because they have been born of God. 10This is how we know who the children of God are and who the children of the devil are: Anyone who does not do what is right is not God’s child, nor is anyone who does not love their brother and sister. ~ (I John 3:7-10)
Dear God, thank you for allowing our Marriage to be the righteousness of God. The truth in 1John lets us know that we are to look differently we are to live differently and to be motivated and trusting of your holy and faithful word. There is none like you. Marriage is and always will be a “good –thing” created by you for the truth. And light of the kingdom. Forgive us if we have taken this responsibility lightly and made it a crutch of selfish desire and selfish service that only benefits our own households and does not change the lives and community in and around us. Teach us how to be Husbands & Wives that are filled with the salt & light of the earth, trusting your power to transform our past, and encourage our legacy to believe that Marriage still Matters and God at the center of Married love is the deciding factor for its overall success. Forgive us for holding un-forgiveness against our Brothers & Sisters. Teach us how to love righteously and live holy unto you. Marriage is fun. Being a Husband is worthy. Being a Wife is worthy. Our vows are all worthy to you. Clear our minds of worldly desires, and accolades & fill us with the purpose that is uniquely designed for us as Husband & Wife. Where there is un-forgiveness, or resentment in our hearts, tear down those walls piece by piece and allow us to be free to hear your voice of instruction. Teach us how to Love each other the way you love us daily. Show us our unique POWER that can only be activated together, and let us never grow apart. We ask these and all blessings…..~In Jesus name we pray, Amen~