~ 21-days of “Marriage Points of Power”© ~via iCleave© Ministries & The Marriage Concierge™~Day 9~Stop pointing fingers at each other…..and begin again with YOU!1 “Judge not, that you be not judged. 2For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. 3Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? 4Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? 5You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.We receive tons of emails and prayer requests daily, expressing concerns listing all the things that their husband/wife is NOT doing, or measuring their husband’s /wife’s worth based upon worldly standards. Have you just taken a moment to hold up the mirror to notice the “log” that we oftentimes have in our own eyes? Yes?? Good! We did too and here we are!
In the book of Matthew, Jesus spoke many POWERFUL words to the crowds in what we now know to be the “Sermon on the Mount”. This sermon gave godly principles and values to the people and many left that moment not only feeling convicted, but also testing motives and their own intentions In our own marriages we have to remember that we can’t spend time pointing fingers at our husbands or wives, we have to pray and ask God to reveal to us the good that He wants us to see in them. Honestly friend, when was the last time you asked God, “Father, please show me how you want me to see my husband/wife? We take it to be a very long time. Be prepared for the answer that you gain, this question will soften the hardest of hearts and clear the “cloudy” of eyes, get ready to change. Jesus said during the “Sermon on the Mount” (Matthew, 7:1-5) Passing judgment of any kind is very hypercritical, and Jesus was clear as to the seriousness and repercussions of this type of behavior, the results were life & heart changing. Like us, many husbands and wives didn’t think that occasional thought of, “He’ll never change?”, or She’ll end up just like her parents!” , passes judgment on each other in a very subtle way. We can’t do that. Remember with our thoughts, even if you did not “voice” it, thinking a judgmental thought is the same as saying it. As husband and wife, we begin a life together not knowing ALL of the past issues, hurts, and pathologies, that inwardly exist for our significant mate, and realize that these don’t reveal themselves until after the wedding. This type of revelation process, is the transparency that happens between two selfless servants. Many marriages suffer from not knowing the difficulties or struggles their husband or wife faced, and become impatient with the healing process. These types of situations result in immediate judgements. This is a great place to begin the selfless prayer for your married love. Ask God to begin the process in your heart of seeing your husband/wife through His eyes and not those of your own. “How will you ask God to show you how to stop passing judgment on your husband/wife today??In order for God to truly show you a new path to loving your husband/wife the way He designed for your marriage, you must be willing to renew your mind and to humble your heart immediately. Husbands and Wives say “I do”, submit to a covenant commitment, but then forget their manners and how to apply the work to increase and sustain their marital longevity. Marriage was built to last. The love shared between husbands and wives is a reflection of the love that Jesus Christ had for the church (Ephesians 5:25) 25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,
We must admit, Day 9 was a bit difficult and “eye-opening” for us, in reading the book of Matthew it revealed in our own lives how we judge each other in our own marriage, and how important it is to seek God’s eyes to reveal hope as we build our love to last! Our prayer is that you will get something from this lesson of judgment. Many of our hopes and dreams as husband and wife are linked to our ability to be more like Jesus. If you are still at a place where you do not understand who Christ is and what He can bring to your marriage, we invite you to take a moment and read this prayer of salvation….
Many who are reading this have already accepted Christ as their Lord and Savior and we are so grateful that you are a part of the Jesus family! But there are some, who are even married, that still have yet to acknowledge that they have a Savior. We are in prayer for you too friend, and can’t wait for Jesus to work His ever-changing power in your life and your marriage. Needless to say, Day 9 was a bit challenging, ( It was so good….we had to say it Twice!!!), but we know that with tests and challenges come testimonies and miracles. Get ready to be changed!!! Thank you for staying with the 21-day challenge, and we hope that something that God is saying through us is changing you, so that you BOTH can be a better husband or wife to each other in your marriages. Remember, you don’t have to go at this marriage life alone, we are always only an email (firstname.lastname@example.org ) or a FACEBOOK post away……. Give us a shout, we’d love to hear from you!
Until tomorrow (Day 10) ……be willing to surrender. God knows all that you need for your marriage, and He’s waiting to show you all of it!
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