Day 4 ~ 21-days of “Marriage Points of Power”©~

~ 21-days of “Marriage Points of Power”© ~

via iCleave© Ministries & The Marriage Concierge

~Day 4~

The Power of Prayer in Marriage~

Let us start off by first congratulating you on sticking with this 21-day marriage points! Congratulations! We truly believe that something here will change your perspective and possibly how you do “life” in your marriage from this day forward. Today, we are discussing the importance of an active, obedient prayer life in marriage. “Yes”, we hear some of you saying, “well my husband/wife doesn’t pray with me?” or “we pray, it’s just me that is always praying, for the both of us”. We have heard many husbands and wives email, text or post that our daily marriage prayers, have been the “glue” that allows them to pray daily together as husband and wife, or alone in their quiet time with God. Do you realize that you both are now, “one flesh”?? Genesis, 2:24 explains, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife, and the two shall become one flesh”. (KJV) Are you as convicted as we were when we read this scripture?

Many husbands and wives are “holding” the mantel of the spiritual covering of their “one-flesh” marriage on their own. Friend, you have to understand that it is okay for you to be the one reading the daily marriage prayers, or for you to be the one, “caravanning” the children to church every Sunday, you are representing the “one-flesh” marriage vows that you said in front of God on your wedding day. Like many of us, maybe the spiritual mantel in your home growing up wasn’t a light that shined down on your mother or father, or maybe you never saw anyone pray in your home. We truly believe that if you are reading this , then even the smallest “beacon” of light is piercing your heart and you are willing to pray and surrender your marriage to God’s will. Well, we love when that happens because, we are right here with tools to help you with a smooth transition.

First, you have to let go of the fact that YOU are the only one praying for your marriage & family. God sees your heart friend, He doesn’t keep score and you shouldn’t keep score with your marriage. The moment you feel yourself sliding down the “wormhole:” of score keeping and who’s doing what for the sake of the spirituality of the marriage. Remember and say this aloud, “We are one-flesh, my husband/wife and I, and whatever is done for the sake of our married love is done in the name of us together in unity as one”. We say this to ourselves on an ongoing basis in order to clear our hearts and minds of our own ego, and allow God to do any fixing in our hearts. Saying this aloud to ourselves has fizzled out a lot of fights and calmed our hearts from worry.

Second, just do it! Prayer is not about changing God’s mind, remember, prayer is about changing yours! We love when people send us prayer requests via our Instagram page, or Facebook posts or even our Pinterest boards. We immediately stop what we are doing and we intercede for these husbands and wives who may not know where hope is coming from. We are reminded of the scripture, (Deuteronomy 32:30) “How could one chase a thousand, And two put ten thousand to flight, Unless their Rock had sold them,”(KJV) during this time, God referenced the power of prayer and how one or two in surrendered prayer can change a nation, even an entire world. How fantastic is that!

Third, and most importantly, ABANDON your expectations and surrender to God’s will for your position in your Marriage. We have been doing multiple checks over the course of this 21-day journey and WOW, we didn’t waste any time, getting to the heart and root of most of our married frustrations. We EXPECT our husband/wife, to know better! It is so refreshing when we hear that husbands and wives alike have abandoned their egos at the door and surrendered to God’s will and way for their marriage. This surrender begins with a humble prayer for your husband or wife. This is a time of thanksgiving and reflection, a time where many will be upset and angry because things did not happen the way they expected them too, but in the midst of the disappointment, this husband or wife decide that he/she would pray for their husband/wife instead of acting out their feelings based upon an “ego” trip! Yes, this is some mature stuff! (SMILE) Let him/her go in your prayers and watch God pick them up and change and mold their hearts in a way that you would never be able to do in your own flesh. But remember friend, when you do this, you have to continue your position as a faithful, selfless serving, husband/wife, not seeking “points” or wanting the change to happen when you want it. This time of surrender will test your patience in a way that you could have never imagined. Prayer and being on-bended knee for your marriage, will be your new best hobby! (Smile)


We are so delighted that you are taking this 21-day journey with us, feel free to email us at: for prayer requests, or just to say “Hi!” We are eagerly planning our 2014 conference calendar and we would love to visit your city! Let us know where you are located and we will forward this to our planning team as we seek to meet & greet you all in 2014! ~iCleave Staff



Pray without Ceasing

Ephesians 6:18 – Praying at all times in the Spirit, with all prayer and supplication. To that end keep alert with all perseverance, making supplication for all the saints.



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